How do you deal with change? Everything is constantly changing. If you’re like everyone else you’re trying to deal with changes you’ve encountered or you’re seeing on the horizon. Consequently, changes can often throw you off balance. It takes a while to regroup, regain focus and find stability again. But dealing with change is not a matter of merely learning how to outwardly adapt. The struggle is trying to rewire your brain to adapt to that change and let go of what you’ve become accustomed to. Often the answer is in discovering how to re-frame the way you think and deal with change so you can regain your focus, find stability and make transitions smoother.
Learning How To Deal With Change
Often, we’re focused on the change instead of how we adapt. So here are my 5 steps on how to deal with change and making transitions easier. So often when changes do happen people must go through a series of internal processes. Knowing this can help you to normalize your emotions, stay focused and work through the process.
Step#1 Remember Change is Universal.
Everything changes. And, I mean everything! The first reaction to change is usually shocking, (even if we saw it coming).
Step #2 Transitioning Is A Process
By now many of you have heard about the Kubler-Ross Model of the stages of Grief: Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Testing, and Acceptance. It’s important to know that every change involves loss. And even if the change is for the better, you’re still losing something that was part of your routine, or something you’d become accustomed to. While it’s said that people resist change, nevertheless, what they are often afraid of is loss.
Step #3 Face The Future
There is no “back there” to go to. While it’s normal to “go through” a period of grief, the emphasis should be on “going through” not camping out there. Moreover, lamenting over the past can result in a loss of precious time.
Step #4 Reframe Your Situation
Avoid taking it personally. Ordinarily, your situation isn’t about you. If you aren’t careful, you’re sucked into personalizing it, making it harder to respond in a positive way. You may not be able to control everything but focus on the things you can control.
There are two issues to deal with – your attitude and your actions. These are directly linked together. Remember your attitude isn’t a result of your circumstances, it’s how you interpret them. How you think about a situation is how you will feel about it.
There are several ways to reframe events to change your “perspective”. Reframing a situation by asking questions can help you see it as an opportunity, and find new solutions. Look for the teachable moments. Ask yourself questions like these: Is this a problem, or is it a problem due to the way I feel about it? How would someone I admire handle this situation? What advice would I give others who are experiencing this same thing?
Step#5 Stay Focused On The Long-Term.
Don’t focus on the immediate situation and sacrifice the future on your short-term emotions. Reduce the negative as much as possible by intentionally avoiding negative news and negative people. Avoid becoming cynical and don’t be a CAVE dweller. (Constantly Against Virtually Everything). Make a list of the long-term goals and stay focused on getting results. Keep your vision on how you will feel when you reach your goals.